Urban Christianz Ministries

Loneliness - A Single's Perspective

By Yevette C. Gooden

Isn’t it amazing that with over six billion people in the world how alone we as individuals can feel?  Loneliness is one of the most frustrating experiences for a single Christian.  The constant change of friends getting married, moving away or even the expectation of a child serves only to isolate us even more.  This mental form of isolation is one of the shrewdest and oldest tricks from the enemy.  This in it self will often thrust us from self-pity to feelings of bitterness and resentment in no time.

So what else is there when you’ve quoted the twenty-third psalms for the one-hundredth time and still feel as though nothing is working?  For years I was afraid to confront this issue in my own life.  I didn’t want to go home because well no one else was there.  Often I would leave work and linger at a coffee house or a bookstore for hours.  Only to finally return home with enough time to eat dinner and go to bed.  Not wanting to be alone in my own home manifested itself in other very subtle ways as well.   I wasn’t interested in completing any internal or external home improvement projects.  I didn’t bother to landscape my backyard, for those in the southwest, which had remained a vacant lot.  I wasn’t willing to make my house into a home, because I didn’t really want to be there.  And because I had moved so far from my family members, I rarely had any visitors.

Resisting Temptation

How do you really resist temptation?  What are some ways you can get out of a bad situation or avoid becoming involved in something that you really don't want to be doing in the first place?  Read on to find some helpful tips and hints so that you'll be ready the next time you face temptation:

How do you really resist temptation?  The first part is easy - you have to want to.  Temptation will always defeat you if you really don't want to resist it in the first place.  If you really think nothing is wrong with over-drinking, indulging in drugs or having sex before marriage, then you won't stop.  So, check your attitude - do you really want to resist or are you happy with your life just the way it is?  Okay - ready to resist?  Here's what you do:

1.  Identify Things That Tempt You.

God Told Me To Marry You

By Deb

Does the above statement sound familiar to you? Have you ever said that to someone? It seems to me that quite a number of Christians, especially women, are telling the opposite sex that God told them that he or she is supposed to be their husband or wife.

Well, I just want to put my "two cents" in on this subject and talk to the women. Girlfriend, God didn't tell you that the fine single brother in the tight suit, sitting on your left in the fifth row of the church is your future husband. I know, you have been watching and noticing him during Sunday services, prayer services, bible study, and you even noticed he was on the youth mentoring program. You're thinking to yourself, he would make a great father. After church, he always greets you with that perfect set of white teeth and that masculine hug and a "whiff" of his good smelling cologne and he always asks in that deep baritone voice "how you doing sister"? Right now, you are thinking, "Oh, I know he must want me."